Signs That You Are Emotionally Mature

This sounds strange, but this is often exactly what emotionally mature people look like.
From the outside, their behavior is often mistaken for detachment, oddness or coldness.
In fact, it is a sign of a stable psyche.

1. You calmly say "no".
   No excuses.
   No stories about being "swamped at work".
   You don't soften the refusal to make it easier for someone to swallow.
   You simply say: "I don't want to."
   And you feel no guilt about it.
2. You are allergic to drama.
   When hysterics, gossip or emotional rollercoasters start around you, you get bored.
   Not because you are unfeeling.
   But because your psyche does not feed on chaos.
   Digging through other people's dirty stories is physically uninteresting to you.
3. You don't play the rescuer.
   If someone complains to you, you can simply listen.
   You don't rush to "fix" someone else's life.
   You don't hand out advice nobody asked for.
   You know: help without a request is a form of pressure, and sometimes of aggression.
4. You allow yourself to be wrong.
   You easily say:
   "I don't know."
   "I was wrong."
   "I changed my mind."
   Your self-esteem does not rest on always being right.
5. You can rest without guilt.
   You can lie there and stare at the ceiling.
   And not punish yourself for an "unproductive day".
   You understand: your resources are not restored by forcing yourself.
6. You don't reply right away.
   You don't live in your phone.
   If you are busy with your own life, messages can wait.
   For you, the phone is a tool, not a reason for anxiety and self-monitoring.
7. You accept that people may not like you.
   If you find out someone doesn't care for you, you shrug.
   You don't try to win them over.
   You don't prove that you are "good".
   Because you know: it is impossible to be convenient for everyone.

Anna Inskaya
House of Wanderers